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One of the Top Ways to Love Unconditionally

Kristine Dewar, M.A., R.P., C.C.C.
Sep 11, 2025
2 min read

To love someone unconditionally takes a conscious effort. We have our own value systems, attitudes, opinions and beliefs. We have ways we like to do things, habits that have formed over time, and individualised experiences that help form who we are in relationship. And as a result, if we are not careful, love can become conditional. It can be overt or implied; conditional love involves a 'set of rules' that one must follow to feel approval and acceptance from their loved one. Unconditional love includes acceptance of who a person is. It is not about their behaviours, choices or their level of success or achievement. Loving someone unconditionally involves stability, consistency and being attuned to their needs. What is one of the top ways that we can consciously love someone without condition? Show up.

  • Be intentional. Check in on loved ones, ask how someone is doing. Invite someone over, suggest a time to chat.

  • Listen with an open mind. Feeling validated is a core component of feeling accepted.

  • Be open to being vulnerable. Sometimes we are going to get feedback that may insult, anger or hurt; this may require being vulnerable to our own actions that may be hurting the relationship in some way.

  • Be mindful of relationship manners. Get somewhere on time; don't be the friend that always cancels or doesn't answer texts.

  • Remind someone that they are loved. Sometimes our loved ones are struggling to make healthy choices and we need to set some boundaries - within that process, we can still say "I love you."

  • Create opportunities for joy. Moments of joy and laughter help to cement the relationship through shared experiences.

Loving unconditionally is not always an easy process. By showing up, we help another to feel accepted, appreciated and cared for. We help feed their soul. Photo by Khadeeja Yasser on Unsplash

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The West Champlain Family Health Team acknowledges it is located upon the traditional and unceded territory of the Algonquin People and respects the traditional knowledge and healing developed over generations. We have the privilege and responsibility to serve First Nations, Inuit, and Métis of many backgrounds and from many treaty and non-treaty lands and territories, and to demonstrate respect for the contributions and cultures of Indigenous Peoples.

 

Iye West Champlain Family Health Team ogíkikenindánáwá taniziwadj ondaje Algonquin Anishinábe tanakíwin ega ka mígiwewadj iyo kichi Anishinábewakí ashidj odapítenindánáwá kikádjichigewin ashidj mino nódjimowin ka pamíkán pinawígo. Nínawind d’ayánánán shawenimigoziwin ashidj inenindágoziwin kidji wídókáwadag Anishinábeg, Abitawizíg ashidj Kíwedinóg máneg wendjibáwadj ashidj níbina nakondiwin ashidj ega akíng ashidj tanakíwinan ashidj kidji wábandayá apítenindagoziwin ondji ka mígiwewadj ashidj pimádjiwowinan ogo Anishinábeg Pemádizidjig.

 

The West Champlain Family Health Team is grateful to the Indigenous Health Circle (which works in collaboration with The Algonquins of Pikwàkanagàn and the Ottawa Valley Ontario Health Team) for sharing a meaningful land acknowledgement both in English and Omámíwininímowin (the Algonquin Anishinábe language), which is the basis of our own.

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