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The Four Agreements; Post 2

Kristine Dewar, M.A., R.P., C.C.C.
Jan 22
2 min read

Yesterday's post featured one of four agreements featured in Don Miguel Ruiz's book entitled "The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom."Today's post features the second agreement:

  • "Don't take anything personally. Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering." - Don Miguel Ruiz

I can't begin to tell you how many times in therapy I have explored with a client the question, "How much is this situation really about you?" It is our natural tendency to internalize our experiences; we often need to mull them around in order to figure out what effect they are going to have on us and what possible direction we will take as a result. Ruiz reminds us that we are responsible for our choices and our actions -

as is everyone else

. People move by their own accord; they make choices based on their own patterns, dynamics, learned behaviours, defenses. In order to truly allow someone else's experience integrate into our own story in such a way as to promote understanding and healing, it first comes with the knowledge that we can separate ourselves from the opinions and actions of others. When we work towards not taking things personally, we remove the roadblock of our own self-doubt, our own hurt feelings and instead come to the conclusion more quickly that the only person we can really change or control is ourselves. To visit The Four Agreements website: https://www.thefouragreements.com/ Photo by Ioann-Mark Kuznietsov on Unsplash

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Land Acknowledgement

The West Champlain Family Health Team acknowledges it is located upon the traditional and unceded territory of the Algonquin People and respects the traditional knowledge and healing developed over generations. We have the privilege and responsibility to serve First Nations, Inuit, and Métis of many backgrounds and from many treaty and non-treaty lands and territories, and to demonstrate respect for the contributions and cultures of Indigenous Peoples.

 

Iye West Champlain Family Health Team ogíkikenindánáwá taniziwadj ondaje Algonquin Anishinábe tanakíwin ega ka mígiwewadj iyo kichi Anishinábewakí ashidj odapítenindánáwá kikádjichigewin ashidj mino nódjimowin ka pamíkán pinawígo. Nínawind d’ayánánán shawenimigoziwin ashidj inenindágoziwin kidji wídókáwadag Anishinábeg, Abitawizíg ashidj Kíwedinóg máneg wendjibáwadj ashidj níbina nakondiwin ashidj ega akíng ashidj tanakíwinan ashidj kidji wábandayá apítenindagoziwin ondji ka mígiwewadj ashidj pimádjiwowinan ogo Anishinábeg Pemádizidjig.

 

The West Champlain Family Health Team is grateful to the Indigenous Health Circle (which works in collaboration with The Algonquins of Pikwàkanagàn and the Ottawa Valley Ontario Health Team) for sharing a meaningful land acknowledgement both in English and Omámíwininímowin (the Algonquin Anishinábe language), which is the basis of our own.

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